Are You Emotionally Weak? 4 Ways to Become More Resilient.
Emotionally weak people are not weak, they are more sensitive to what happens around them instead of having internal control. I come from a family where the belief system was really driven by the outside environment.
If you are rich, you get an inherited belief system that anything can be reachable but if you are middle class then everybody will start to give you that freaky advice (Money does not grow on trees etc.) or otherwise which no one promises if they truly work for you.
Humans are selfish beings, to keep their ego above all, they always teach you that life is tough and you have to work every single day to survive or should I say breathe.
Believe it or not, some of us can't reach what we wish for. We always make excuses to appease our egos. The money is bad, you can't get anything. Things you can't achieve, people you can't afford to talk to because you don't fit in with their lifestyle.
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If you look around, everything will depend in some way or other on the environmental belief we live in. These patterns build our whole life and stimulate our subconscious minds. The people you talk to, friends, and family, impact your identity.
However, have you ever gone through an emotional roller coaster, where your mind made you guilty for everything you did in your life?
We spend a big portion of our life living on world standards. Find a good job, and earn more and more to buy all the luxuries which by the way never gives us the internal peace we are looking for.
Although, have you ever noticed yourself, not physically but mentally? Doesn't matter if you are rich, middle or poor. Life always manifests the reality to which you give your emotional attention subconsciously.
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Spend a week with yourself and notice your thoughts -
A) What things make you feel emotionally weak?
B) What people, places or things make you happy?
C) People you meet during the day who help you and selflessly praise you for what you achieved so far and what about those whom you meet and did nothing but talking about what negative in your life right now.
We always attract the negative vibe, people, and situations we feel emotionally weak about. Those are real things that made you the person you are. Same thoughts, same situation, same life, all because you never change or shift your thoughts to something better.
Humans are emotional creatures; all they want is to be loved and cared for. Despite knowing the fact that our thoughts will manifest whatever we put our brain into. Still, mindful practices, journaling, and exercising are all expensive things which most people do to make attractive YouTube videos, instead of changing their life.
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Real practice should be a norm to do in private so that no one will notice that you are okay for not being okay.
I grew up in a middle-class family where everyone would tell me how to get good grades, how to eat, and how to talk and smile. Though no one will ever teach you how to tackle or come out of fear or doubt where you aren't feeling good, or have any anxiety issues, about that bad feeling or emotions which don't let you sleep at night.
I became habitual to not taking any help from anyone or having the courage to say or feel what was wrong with me. I always buried my pain inside me which led me to guilt, stress, and anxiety. I learned to put walls around my feelings and pain so that nobody would notice otherwise my family feel ashamed in society which btw not give a dam about me.
Emotional pain is hideous, no matter what the circumstances are, if you felt hurt in some way then accept that instantly.
Why, because our ego is bigger than anything else externally or internally people who hurt you, you never wanted to accept the feeling that they are reason for your misery and overwhelming attitude.
Months and years have gone by with those feelings subconsciously and different feelings piled on. Therefore, the moment anything bad happens, it triggers all bad emotions and situations where you feel ohh every time I have to face these situations one way or other, why me always?
However, the truth is, or I would say, the best way to overcome these emotional barriers is to sit with yourself and notice what caused this and analyze and try to find the root of the problem. Because if you don't then, problems will never leave you and get back to you in new form. Every time if, something bad happens in your life, no matter if someone hurts you or you are sucked ahh.... timing was bad - accept the feeling of that situation.
Say to yourself slowly and quietly - I feel hurt when he said so and so thing to me that time, or I made mistake or made a Poor decision, and that's why today I'm facing this situation.
The moment you say these words to yourself, you feel peace and calmness inside you which leads to a moment of emotional control. Ever Tried?Emotional barriers are really tough to tackle if you are not accepting your feelings abruptly. It's your life, thus you have to accept it, like whatever it is you are dealing with, whether you like it or not. It is the best way to become stronger and become a happy person every time you hit the back road. Don't worry, all are the same on this earth, a lot of problems to deal with.
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Today you are feeling low but who knows when you will get back to life and give advice to others. Stay strong and stay humble.